"Hate" Campaign against Kathie Briggs and her family...

wjnorbom said...


Media Prostituting a child. Live and in color.

Smiling in a photo with the sentence, "Who Killed Kelsey?"

Despicable.



February 25, 2010 4:49 PM

Jody Ortiz said...

I agree!

So, what about the photos of FKM members and Gayla Smith standing ON Kelsey's grave smiling?  What were those photos promoting?  I believe the picture that Wendy and her pal are commenting on is in reference to the promotion of the upcoming book, "Who Killed Kelsey?".   THAT is wrong, but ok for Kelsey's maternal grandma and many others to disrespect a grave by standing on top of the very part where Kelsey is buried? and smiling to boot! 
 
 
I wonder what they call FKM and all the sites out there that are allegedly to garner support for Raye Dawn and her freedom, using pictures of Kelsey?  Is that also "prostituting a child"?  Live and in color to free a convicted felon who just recently was again confirmed by a Judge to still being a SUSPECT in her own child's murder!
 
 
Once again, IF they could prove "the Briggs" to be the most horrid of people living on earth, that does absolutely NOTHING to PROVE raye dawn's innocence or Porter's guilt!!  Nothing.  A certain blogger has spent the majority of her blog promoting hate against "the Briggs".  Nothing much on there, if anything...pertains to anything at all to prove Raye's innocence.  It's all about the Briggs.  Nothing on there pertains to Porter's guilt....as they say RD is innocent and Porter is the one guilty of the abuse and murder of Kelsey.  Any reasonable person sees that the purpose of that blog is to promote hate against Kathie and Lance Briggs.  Until RD's attorney told them to clean it up, the majority of TTAK site was also a bash the Briggs site.  I have to wonder what he would think of that blog if he knew about it and read it, after I know for a FACT that he had stated that the internet blogs and sites needed to stop?  I will put that on my "to do" list and send him the blog screenshots.  His email changed as apparently he was being emailed a bunch of CRAP that was clogging down his email that he was uninterested in according to what I was told.  But "snail mail" will work. 
 
Seems that again that the topic of conversation on that blog is to trash Kathie.  Let me tell you a secret fellow blogger....you aren't going to get Kathie charged with anything so give it up already.  You can continue on with your promoting hate of the Briggs but in doing that you are NOT helping to prove Raye Dawn innocent.  Someone needs to tell you that....seriously.  Your obsession with Kathie Briggs is very alarming, bordering criminal in my opinion.  Why don't you yourself confess your true motives?  Which obviously has nothing to do with freeing Raye Dawn or proving her innocence.  I think you truely do not believe Porter to be the guilty one or you would turn your focus on to him instead of people that could NOT POSSIBLY be guilty of killing Kelsey.  The diversion tactics are old and are only harming Raye's side, certainly not helping.  Many have changed their support of RD recently.  Lies and deceit are catching up to those doing those things. 
 
The truth is going to win out, every time.  Just as it did at RD's trial, and just as it did at the recent hearing.  Too bad everyone can't read RD's deposition from that hearing, isn't it?  Of course I was sent some screenshots where this certain blogger has stated that they don't have RD's deposition because "the Briggs took it".  LOL  Really?  And here I thought this blogger was trying to convince everyone how close she was to the case and how much she "helps" Rd's attorney.  Guess THAT proves in and of itself that that is not the truth.  If you inquire about copies of the depositions which are public record, RD's is NOT available...but NOT because "the Briggs took it", but because RD's is sealed for the time being.  Common sense tells you that she testified in her deposition and that since her appeal is still being decided, she may end up back at trial and she could be testifying.  She is a prisoner, and makes perfect sense why hers is "unavailable at this time".  Again it is not because "the Briggs took it" as has been stated as fact by a certain blogger.
 
It really is quite telling that this blogger and select few of rd supporters focus solely on "the Briggs", never on the only two people who could have possibly killed Kelsey.  Maybe the readers should ask themselves why?  Trying to find blame somehow with any of the Briggs does not exonerate Raye Dawn Smith from her guilt in her part of her daughters murder.  No matter how much you wish it.....no matter how hard you pray for it....facts don't change....the truth doesn't change.
 

The TRUTH will not change....

Ok, I'm back for now.  I've been really sick the past few days and am just now feeling ok enough to even be up out of bed.  This asthma stuff is for the birds!  I don't know how you go all these years and all of a sudden have "asthma"....I guess the cold isn't good for asthma...found that out the hard way.


I'm not going to post much right now, but there is a couple of things I want to say real quick.  First of all, I believe in God and I believe in prayer.  I do NOT believe in being a hypocrite.  I also do not believe that you can change the truth and fact with prayer.  You can pray all you want, but just because you are asking God, does not mean he is going to change the truth or facts for you.  They can "pray" all they want for God to make Porter confess, but prayer won't make him confess to something he simply did not do.  It won't miraculously make people who are telling the truth, out to be liars.  Prayer just doesn't work that way.  The lies that are included in prayer are scary.  But that is not for me to deal with, God will deal with that for sure.  I do however think it is very telling instead of "praying" for the truth to be revealed, whatever it may be, they reinforce that it is Mike Porter that is the guilty one.  I guess some just want that to be the truth, so badly they reinforce it by wording it the way they do.  I pray for the truth...the whole truth and the REAL truth to be revealed and proven....whatever the real truth is.  I know that God has a plan and there is a reason....a "purpose" that all of this is going on the way it has....we don't have to like it or understand it.


The next thing is the depositions.  I'm like many others and don't get the "big deal" about Kathie's deposition, and I've not read Lance's yet so will comment on that later.  Kathie did not lie in her deposition.  The things she has said has been the same since the beginning.   But I guess those of us that know the truth and don't put a spin on everything to try to make things something they are not, know that.  The one thing in Kathie's that I'm going to comment on is the thing that is being used by some RD supporters to try to stir up crap.  Kathie does NOT "know" Shonya.  They have never met and have not spoken even on the phone.  They have corresponded through email.  Kathie did not lie.  If she had said she "knew" Shonya, then she'd have been a "liar" because they'd never met or even spoken by phone, I believe no matter what she'd said, like everything else it would have been wrong to a select few that insist on finding crimes in this case where none exist and lay the blame by deflecting from the real guilty parties in this case.  You're not going to get Kathie put in prison or jail for anything....she did nothing wrong...give it up already, it's quite tiring and boring.  They still focus on "the Briggs" and not on the person they insist is guilty...Mike Porter.  Something wrong with that.
I will continue to pray for those that lie and try to manipulate, and deflect from the real issues in this case.

Double Jeoprady

"The Double Jeopardy Clause in the Fifth Amendment to the US Constitution prohibits anyone from being prosecuted twice for substanially the same crime. See, e.g. United States v. Ursery, 518 US 267 (1996)."  "Thus a person cannot be guilty of both murder and manslaughter for the same homicide, nor can a person be retried for the same crime after the case has been resolved. A person can, however, be convicted of both murder and robbery if the murder arose from the robbery."

Michael Porter cannot be recharged with murder.  He was previously charged and that case has been resolved with Porter plea bargaining to  "enabling child abuse" of which he was not charged with but accepted in a plea to the murder charge.

Raye Dawn Smith however has never been charged with murder,  and therefore CAN be charged with murder at any time.  Even if RD didn't deliver the fatal blow to  Kelsey, under the law she can still be charged with first degree murder.

"A person commits murder in the first degree when the death of a child results from the willful or malicious injuring, torturing, maiming or using of unreasonable force by said person or who shall willfully cause, procure or permit any of said acts to be done upon the child pursuant to Section 7115 of Title 10 of the Oklahoma Statutes. It is sufficient for the crime of murder in the first degree that the person either willfully tortured or used unreasonable force upon the child or maliciously injured or maimed the child."

A woman in the past couple years here in Oklahoma was convicted of First Degree Murder in the death of her child by the hands of her b/f.  She permitted the acts to be done upon her child by leaving her child with the b/f after her child had been previously injured in the care of the b/f.  I'll see if I can find that article again.  If I remember right the woman wasn't home at the time of the child's death.

It's my opinion....

I had a post written yesterday, but as luck would have it when I hit the "publish" button, a message came up that said they had trouble processing my command or something like that. At first it made me mad because I couldn't retrieve it. As I thought about it, it was probably a blessing. I was very frustrated and angry at the lies and deceit that is constantly put out to the public. Hate, that is generated from a select few and prepetuated throughout the world wide web. It's sad that people have to use deceit, misrepresented facts, half truths, and just bold faced, flat out lies to try to garner support for a woman who sits in prison that put herself and what she wanted in life before her own child, and who by the evidence and facts in the case is highly suspected of killing her own child. And yes, like it or not, she IS a suspect in killing her child.






Those that support RD, sadly concentrate on "the Briggs" instead of the two people that were in the home with Kelsey the day she was murdered. Why? Why throw rocks at, promote hate towards, lie about and put the concentration of the case onto people who could not have possibly have killed Kelsey? There is only ONE reason for that. To deflect the concentration and blame from the guilty party. If they want to take the attention and focus off of Raye Dawn, why don't they put it on the only other person who could have possibly killed Kelsey....Porter? Does this make any sense to anyone else? It doesn't to me. What it does do, is show the hate being constantly promoted towards "the Briggs".






If they want to look outside the two that could have killed her, then instead of throwing suspicion towards the only part of Kelsey's family that tried to save her, let's talk about the part of Kelsey's family that did nothing. FACT is...Gayla Smith failed Kelsey too. More than what they try to lay blame at "the Briggs" feet. What did Gayla do, to help Kelsey? What did Gayla do, to protect and save Kelsey? Anyone? FACT also is, Gayla Smith is guilty of "enabling child abuse" by her own testimony, according to the DA, Richard Smothermon.






Did Gayla hear the same "excuses" for Kelsey's injuries that we have since heard, that were all blamed on Porter allegedly at the times they were happening? Or did Gayla help Raye Dawn come up with those excuses to blame Porter? Could be.






Personally, it is my opinion, Gayla knows more than she is telling. Personally I believe that Gayla is more involved in this than we will ever know or be told. She was gone for a couple hours the day Kelsey died. Where was she? Have phone records been checked to see if there was any communication between RD and Gayla that afternoon prior to Kelsey's death, when RD was allegedly taking a nap? Did RD call her mom and tell her what she did and that something was wrong with Kelsey? Did Gayla call RD? Why wasn't there any talk of Gayla questioning why the plans changed and Kelsey wasn't brought to her as planned that afternoon? What does Gayla know that she's NOT telling?






Personally, I believe what Debbie Hammons said in her letter to the OSBI agents. She had absolutely no reason and no motive to lie about any of it. Did Gayla get away with murder once and then help her daughter try to get away with murder with Kelsey?






I do know that the part of the OSBI tapes where Gayla and RD are having such a "hush hush" conversation and the monologue cannot be heard, is being put into some programs to see if it can be enhanced to hear what they were saying that they didn't want anyone else to hear. I have to question Gayla's lack of surprise when being told that Kelsey did not die from a seizure as she allegedly thought. As there was with Raye Dawn, there was absolutely no element of surprise or shock value when Gayla was told that Kelsey was murdered. NONE. What does that tell us?






Certain RD supporters want you to focus on Kathie and Lance. Why? They did not have opportunity or motive to kill Kelsey. For them to even try to focus on Mike Porter, still holds Raye Dawn accountable and responsible because RAYE DAWN lived in the home with Porter. Raye Dawn was court ordered to not have Kelsey around Porter...so what does she do? She marries him. Raye Dawn is the one who tells all the "excuses" and she is the one who says...well she was with Mike when that happened...to each and every incident. Let's say for sake of arguement for the moment, that all Kelsey's injuries were "accidents". How plausible is it that ALL the injuries or "accidents" happened when Raye Dawn was NOWHERE around? None of the injuries does she admit to being there with Kelsey when they happened. That is totally unreasonable. If they were "accidents", why lie? I mean gosh, she said that her and Kelsey were ALWAYS together. What she means by that I guess is that they were ALWAYS together EXCEPT for ALL those times that Kelsey was injured, bruised and beaten. So much for "ALWAYS" being together, huh?






If Raye Dawn had nothing to hide, then why did she lie to the OSBI agents during their questioning her? Did she really "want to know what happened to Kelsey" or did she already know?






Gayla says "we was starting to watch him". If Gayla, as Kelsey's other grandma, was concerned enough to start watching Porter, they why didn't she call and make her suspicions and concerns known to anyone at all? She didn't call DHS. She didn't call law enforcement. She didn't call the attorney. She didn't call "the Briggs". She didn't call the CASA worker. She did absolutely nothing about her alleged concerns and suspicions that were allegedly making her start "watching" Porter. Her own daughter had been accused of abusing Kelsey. Kelsey had been taken from Raye Dawn and embarrassed the whole family by DHS involvement in that family, because of suspision and allegations of abuse. Abuse had been confirmed against Kelsey nameing Gayla's own daughter as the "confirmed" abuser. If things were happening that was making it obvious enough to Gayla that Porter was the one hurting Kelsey why would she not contact SOMEONE and say HEY! this is what's going on and I think Porter is hurting Kelsey? or say something...anything???? Makes absolutely NO sense. As do most of the lies being told in defense of Raye Dawn do not make sense.








You fight lies with truth. Truth does not change. Facts do not change. Look at the youtube videos, not only being reposted on another blog, but all over youtube. How many of those videos promote hate against "the Briggs"? They say that Kelsey supporters promote hate against Raye Dawn, and someone else that wants to be important in this case and obviously wants to make some money off Kelsey's name, wants you to believe that a huge amount of hate is being promoted against her. But reality and truth is, if you search through youtube, you will see "who" it is that is "promoting hate" and the larger amount of "hate" is being promoted against "the Briggs", NOT against RD, the Smiths or the unknown self important person. That is fact folks.




In my opinion, no matter what we do or say we are not going to get the hate to stop.  One person won't let it stop.  They provoke it and no matter how much they say they want it to stop, I don't believe they do.  Yes, that is my opinion.  I believe they like the attention they get from it and they have a motive behind it all, which is easy to see.  Probably more attention than they have ever gotten.  It's sad that someone would use a dead child for their own personal agenda and gain, but there are many people out there that do just that.  They don't care, they have no personal attachment to the child.  I'm not stating this as fact, just my personal opinions after a long time of observation of the situation. 



I wish they would hurry up with the appeal decision.  Although I believe that she will lose her appeal, when that happens I also believe things will escalate towards the Briggs family.  I hope I'm wrong on that. 

Oh...we ARE ready to listen...

To whatever you and the Smiths have to say.

Definition of empathy from the online dictionary:  "em·pa·thy (mp-th)


n.

1. Identification with and understanding of another's situation, feelings, and motives
 
I disagree that "Jurors usually feel empathy for both sides no matter what they decide or rule".  I'm pretty sure if you ask the jurors in any violent crime, esp. murder of a child that NO ONE has empathy for the guilty.  How can you identify and understand how a mother can either murder her own child, or sit by and not protect her child from another?  How would you understand and identify with the person, their feelings, and motives of the one guilty of killing Caylee Anthony?  Can YOU understand and identify and understand that situation?  What about BTK, Dennis Rader?  Can you identify and understand his feelings and motives when he Bound, Tortured and Killed 10 people, two of them children?  Can you understand and identify what he he did to little Joseph Otero? what about what he did to young Josephine?  I can't, no matter how hard I might try ...understand or identify with that.  And I thank God I can't identify with anything of that sick, disgusting nature.
 
My response to the recent posted video on another blog about one of the jurors from RD's trial. 
 
Michelle Reeves wasn't a KP member until AFTER the trial.  I know for a fact and it CAN be proven that KP was shut down during the trial.
 
"Why wasn't the second autopsy brought into Raye Dawn's trial that shows the sexual assault of Kelsey by Mike Porter?"
 
Why didn't Raye Dawn introduce it if it "proved" so much?  Easy to answer.  The second autopsy didn't "prove" sexual assault, nor that it was "Mike Porter" that committed sexual assault.  It has NEVER been proven that there was a sexual assault committed in Kelsey's case.  Those that say otherwise, LIE.  THREE ME's could NOT AGREE that took place.  Why do those people who support Raye Dawn insist something like that happened to little Kelsey when it has NOT been proven it had??  Easy again to answer, because to most people who do not know all the evidence and facts in the case think it points more towards Porter.  What that second autopsy DID prove, which was NOT brought up at trial was that there indeed WAS another head injury (a skull fracture) to Kelsey which was in a different stage of healing than the injuries inflicted the day Kelsey was murdered.  It DID prove abuse to Kelsey by other injuries in different stages of healing.  But they don't want to talk about the truth about what that second autopsy DID in fact prove.
 
 
"Raye Dawn was never a suspect for murder."
 
This is also a lie.  Raye Dawn was and IS still considered a "suspect" for Kelsey's murder.  Even the Judge in the recent hearing on the DHS settlement money Raye Dawn tried to get, confirmed her still being a suspect.
 
"Why was this juror so interested in Raye Dawn getting a long sentence?"
 
I haven't asked her myself, but she did say that she believes from the evidence presented in court, (as did many) that Raye Dawn murdered Kelsey, most people want to see murderers get " a long sentence".
 
"Notice her new look and pink shirt in support of the Briggs at Raye Dawn's sentencing"
 
People who were and still do wear "pink" wear it in support of KELSEY, not "the Briggs".  Why because she has a "new look" does that make her a bad and unfair juror or a "Briggs supporter"?
 
I don't understand on the video why the "Kathie, Kathie, Kathie, Briggs, Briggs, Briggs"  She only mentions "Kathie" once during the time that is on the screen of the video.
 
"Juror turned family spokesperson for the Briggs. What????!!!"
 
I have never seen when said she was the "family spokesperson for the Briggs", nor did I  ever see where any of the Briggs said that Reeves was appointed to speak for their family.  This is just another lie and manipulation of the truth.  This was AFTER the trial and the media was asking HER questions.  By the sentencing she was no longer considered a juror and could speak to the Briggs or anyone else she wanted.  Like I said very misleading statement and implications in this sorry video...it does present the TRUTH.
 
"Why was she so happy?"
 
She made it perfectly clear she was happy because Judge Vassar sentenced Raye Dawn to the full sentence the jury recomended.  Plain as day.
 
"Responsibility for what? She didn't know!"
 
Her responsibility for what happened to her daughter!  And YES, SHE DID KNOW!  Facts and evidence PROVE she knew Kelsey was being abused!!! (if she wasn't doing it herself)  She was convicted of she knew or should have known, not that she had to know it was "Porter" doing it.  ( which is good cuz then THAT would be a lie, when it was Raye Dawn doing the abuse
 
Kathie didn't "quit" Kelsey.  That is totally asinine to even say.  They kept saying "What about Kelsey" in the video....my response to that is this....
That is what I would ask you..."What about Kelsey?"  The only time they talk about Kelsey is when it is to benefit freeing her pathetic, sorry mother(my opinion) from prison. So what about her? What about the pain and terror, the confusion, the suffering and plain TORTURE that precious child went through in her 'mother's' care? the day she was brutally murdered?  What about that? 
You wanna know "what about Kelsey?"  Let me tell ya...KELSEY is the victim in this case.  KELSEY was the helpless, defenseless, innocent one that lived for months being abused and in pain and fear, in the very place she should have felt the safest...her own home...with the one person who should have done anything and everything to protect the life of her child...her 'mother' and instead it was the house of horrors, pain and abuse with the person who either KILLED her or allowed her to be killed...her very own 'mother'.  KELSEY is the one who HAD NO CHOICES.  KELSEY IS THE ONE WHO IS DEAD....BRUTALLY BEATEN TO DEATH...MURDERED at the tender age of 2 1/2 on Oct.11, 2005!!  THAT is "what about Kelsey".  I would like to ask Raye Dawn that very question myself.
 
Raye Dawn got a fair trial.  She's not getting a new trial and even if she did, she's not getting out of her prison cell any time soon.  That's my opinion of course.  Time will tell.  It is clear that the evidence and truth is being seen in court and by the Judges.  Justice for Kelsey is what it's about, it's not about Raye Dawn, it's not about the people that are making up stories to tell, fabricating evidence and misrepresenting the truth and facts of the case and proclaiming that 'they' are a victim in this case.  You cannot change the truth or facts and especially not by posting your opinions as fact.  A lesson they will learn. These are also my opinions.
 
(3 posts in 24 hours...sorry, just lots to say today) 

Thoroughly disgusted!

I am thoroughly disgusted by this!  I will assure you this has been sent to the attorney's.  For someone to suggest that Kathie had Mike hurt Kelsey and it "went a lil too far", and then for the author of that book to agree and encourage that thought process and not put a stop to something she knows is not true, is disgusting. She will be held accountable.  Guess she didn't read Wendy's law quotes she sent everyone, including the author.  I won't say anymore than that on that subject for now.

Another thing too...another screenshot I received with the above one states that she is putting the hate mail she got in her book after she was "exposed to Kelsey's Purpose".  She says she knew nothing about KP at that time.  I guess she has already forgotten that there is proof she is truthseeker and we have copies of posts from her on KP before that all happened.  Another lie.  And this book is truthful?  Whatever. 

I was also told she's still debating on naming names.  Says she talked to legal counsel and was told hands needed slapped.  My opinion is, I doubt an attorney would encourage the revealing of names.  The law is very clear on that.  I've got a feeling there is going to be some major lawsuits over this POS book (my opinion).

Also, there's a second book in the works already.  lol I deleted the comment I wrote for this paragraph. Too early in the morning lol

Have a great weekend everyone.  Happy Valentines Day to you all!

This is for Wendy....

This is my response to you for your comment to me posted below....

"When your group of supporters write nasty things and broad brush a group of Raye Smith supporters, you entice the fools to come out. People with limited intelligence start to think they are really smart and then not only try to hurt others, but then hurt you as well.



You may wish to speak to this person who posted on Who Killed Kelsey?


This is her beautiful poem. This only makes your advocacy be broad brushed in a similar way. You don't all want to be judged by the lowest IQ in your group do you?"
 
 
First of all Wendy, "I" don't have a "group of supporters", or a "group" period. "I" don't entice "fools" to come out.  "I" am not responsible for what others post on any site.  Others are entitled to their "opinions" and thoughts, the same as you and your pal, whether they are "fools" or have the "lowest IQ" or not, and whether you and/or I agree with them or not. They are just that, "their" opinions and thoughts.  I haven't seen that poem nor who wrote it and you failed to mention the culprit.
I find it interesting that you came here with this...many would say the same about what goes on at your pals blog that you not only participate in, but also entice and encourage. You said "you don't all want to be judged by the lowest IQ in your group do you?"  And here I thought a good Christian such as yourself wasn't in the habit of "judging" others, let alone "judging" them based on someone else.  You don't like it that people "judge" Raye Dawn, yet you do the very same thing.  Almost daily I see you "judge" Kathie and/or Lance and others.  Again, the word "hypocrite" comes to mind.  YOU write, encourage and support "nasty things" and lies "to hurt others" that are written on your pals blog daily, so I guess you know now that that only hurts not only you but Raye Dawn  too, right?  I mean that is what you are telling me? right?
Maybe you should clean your own backyard before you come here to tell me to clean mine and how to do it?  I could throw some scripture back at you, like you like to do, but you see, I'm not shallow like that....I don't need to hide behind scripture and "God" to justify in my own mind and heart what I say and/or do. 
I'm sure your pal will whine on her blog about how I'm attacking you, and I'm not.  I'm only posting in response to your comments directly to me.
Have a great weekend.  Blessings to you and yours.

Update:   I read your "comment" on your pals blog....you can't imagine Raye Dawn's pain and sadness?  Can you imagine Kelsey's?  Her pain, sadness and suffering?  Just wondering as it seems all your compassion and concern is always reserved for and in reference to... the prison princess.  NOTHING Raye Dawn will ever go through or feel will EVER compare to what Kelsey went through and felt.  And the thing is?  Raye Dawn had choices, that innocent, defenseless baby did not.

Link to pdf document on Judges ruling

http://www.okcfox.com/newsroom/features/brittens_blog/CC093A93d01.pdf     Here is the link from Brittens Blog on Fox 25 to the pdf court document with the Judge's ruling. 

Some VERY important points to be pointed out are...


 B. Ms. Smith


For reasons that are not particularly relevant to the issues before the Court, during her


pregnancy Ms. Smith was not forthcoming about the possibility that Mr. Briggs could be Kelsey’s


father, and after Kelsey’s birth she was reluctant to allow Mr. Briggs to spend time with Kelsey.
 
 
4 During the hearing Ms. Smith presented the testimony of Dr. Robert Bux, M.D., a forensic


pathologist, on the issue of whether Kelsey experienced conscious pain and suffering from the blunt force

trauma before succumbing to her injuries. If such pain and suffering is established, Okla. Stat. tit. 12,

§ 1053(B) allows for an apportionment of damages to the estate of the minor child, to be distributed according

to the rules of intestate succession. However, Dr. Bux’s testimony was inconclusive on this issue, in that he


could not state with certainty whether death occurred within minutes or hours after the blunt force trauma was


inflicted. He testified that Kelsey would have been “immediately symptomatic” after the blow until the time

she “passed out,” but he could not say when unconsciousness would have occurred and whether or not it


would have been immediate.
 
 
3. The Impact of Kelsey’s Death and Destruction of the Parent-Child Relationship


A. Mr. Briggs

Testimony established that Kelsey’s death has had a profound and lasting impact on


Mr. Briggs and his quality of life. He was described by family members who testified as being a

“lost” and “broken” man since Kelsey’s death. He has experienced extreme grief and severe

depression, and has sought mental health counseling. He no longer enjoys life events, such as

holidays with his family, and at times has difficulty interacting with his family members. Clearly,

Mr. Briggs’ grief has been, and continues to be, substantial.
 
 
 
B. Ms. Smith



Ms. Smith testified emotionally about not being allowed in the ambulance when Kelsey was


taken to the hospital, and how she felt upon learning of Kelsey’s death. She stated that she thinks


about Kelsey every day, and talks about her constantly as a way to stay in touch with the memory


of Kelsey. Ms. Smith testified that she prays for “God to take me” so she can be with Kelsey.


Although Ms. Smith has been affected emotionally by Kelsey’s death, the Court did not find her


testimony on these issues to be entirely credible. However, even accepting Ms. Smith’s testimony


regarding the depth of her grief, for reasons set forth below, she cannot be allowed to share in the


Net Proceeds from claims relating to the death of Kelsey.
 
 
This statute implements a common law doctrine and the equitable principle that a person may not
 
benefit from his own wrongful conduct.
 
 
 
courts may continue to apply the



common law rule where a beneficiary has played a part in causing the death, even though the


beneficiary has not been convicted of murder or manslaughter.
 
Under the doctrine, it is the beneficiary’s felonious act causing the decedent’s loss of life, rather
 
than a conviction of the killing, that warrants a disqualification from recovery.
 
Further, it is an age-old maxim of



equity that one who seeks equity must come to court with clean hands.
 
 
 
The evidence reasonably established that Kelsey’s death has had a greater emotional impact on Mr. Briggs.
 
The evidence at the hearing established an alarming pattern of injuries to Kelsey while she


was in the care and custody of Ms. Smith. Ms. Smith herself acknowledged as much during crossexamination.

It cannot be reasonably argued that these injuries were not the result of repeated abuse
 
 
 
Moreover, the severe trauma inflicted on October 11, 2005, again while she was in the care and



custody of Ms. Smith, resulted in Kelsey’s death. It may never be known with certainty whether the fatal injuries were inflicted by Ms. Smith or Mr. Porter


The evidence clearly established that Ms. Smith was aware Kelsey was being harmed, and at the very least, she culpably failed to protect Kelsey from further harm.
 Equity dictates that one ought not benefit from her own wrong.


8 Clearly, as between the parents, Ms. Smith alone stood in a position to intervene to protect Kelsey



from harm and death, but she failed to do so and thereby contributed to (if she did not inflict) Kelsey’s fatal injuries. Mr. Briggs, who is blameless in the matter of Kelsey’s death, has been devastated by his feelings

of loss and grief. Ms. Smith’s feelings, while perhaps no less real to her now, were entirely avoidable had


she properly tended to the parent-child relationship during the time period immediately preceding Kelsey’s


death.

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All I can say is WOW!!  VERY powerful statements in this Judge's ruling!!  So according to this court, unlike what another blogger has posted as fact...Raye Dawn is still suspect in Kelsey's murder!!   It was also PROVEN she wasn't truthful about being pregnant before her divorce from Lance and she DID try to keep Kelsey from Lance. 
 
Another blogger posted that Raye Dawn's own forensic pathologist PROVED that Raye Dawn couldn't have killed Kelsey....the findings of this court PROVES that her own witness could not "state with certainty" within minutes or hours after the fatal blow. So that blogger LIED yet again, because that IS NOT what RD's witness stated.
 
On the issue of how Kelsey's death has affected Lance and Raye Dawn, while the Judge states as fact that the court did NOT find RD's testimony "entirely credible", the Judge states it was proven that Kelsey's death has had a "profound and lasting impact" on Lance and his quality of life....he has extreme grief over the loss of his child and it continues to be "substantial". 
 
And although another blogger and many RD supporters have repeatedly denied that Kelsey had been being abused for some time this court states as fact, "It cannot be reasonably argued that these injuries were not the result of repeated abuse"
 
And yet again, this court states as FACT.."It may never be known with certainty whether the fatal injuries were inflicted by Ms. Smith or Mr. Porter" so YES, RD IS considered a suspect in the murder of her own daughter, Kelsey Briggs. 
 
This court also states as fact that RD DID know Kelsey was being abused and "at the very least" she failed to protect her child.
 
This court also states as fact that RD alone was in a position to intervene and protect Kelsey from harm/death, failed to do so, thereby "contributed to (IF SHE DID NOT INFLICT) the fatal injuries"   CANNOT GET MUCH PLAINER THAN THAT!!
 
This court also states as FACT that Lance is "BLAMELESS" in Kelsey's death.
 
 
Another blogger who proudly boasts that they "are biased", states they were in court and what they "witnessed" was not what the Judge "witnessed".   Maybe that blogger should now step back and look and see that their "bias" may be clouding their perception of the REAL TRUTH and FACTS in this case!!
 
This was a great day for the state of Oklahoma and especially the children.  As Lance's attorney stated on Fox25...they set precedent that someone cannot benefit from her own bad conduct.  The reporter also noted that they contacted Raye's family but they refused to comment.
 
I will say IN MY OPINION, apparently Raye Dawn's own testimony, like her mother's in her criminal trial, hurt her....maybe they knew what they were doing when she didn't testify at her criminal trial.  They say if she gets a new trial, she will tell her side....in my opinion that would be wonderful!  Her testimony on many things has been documented in this trial.  She can't change her testimony now, not with that documentation...Personally, I think it would be great for her to testify in her own criminal trial....If it weren't for the Briggs family having to sit through all the painful testimony and evidence once again in another lengthly trial, I would be fighting too to get her a new trial!!
 
The Briggs family has prayed and prayed, along with many others that the right thing would be done in this and those prayers were answered by the Judge's ruling in this case.  Prayer is a powerful thing.  When you stand for the truth, it does make a difference.  Seeing how this Judge ruled today, and the things proven in that court, just reinforces my opinion that Raye Dawn will NOT get a new trial.  And IF she did, in my opinion, she would be convicted once again and most likely with a greater sentence....life.
 
This ruling although right and fair, did not make it a "happy" day for the Briggs family.  The reason behind this whole process weighs heavily upon their hearts and minds.  They would MUCH rather have Kelsey than any amount of money. 
 
Little Kelsey, rest in peace sweet little one...full justice is coming through the courts....

RAYE DAWN GETS NO MONEY FROM SETTLEMENT!!!!

Decision is in.  Raye Dawn Smith gets NO MONEY from the DHS settlement money!!!!!  

I knew it!!  In my opinion It's a GREAT DAY !!  Doin' the "happy dance" right now....the reason being, this is just one more little bit of justice in Kelsey's case.  The law speaks clearly.

More later...phone calls to make.

Oh almost forgot here is a link to a story on it....

http://www.newsok.com/kelsey-smith-briggs-mother-gets-no-money-from-lawsuit-settlement/article/3438304?custom_click=headlines_widget

"If you're innocent why take a plea?"

This is something that many RD supporters ask about Mike Porter.  "Why take 30 years if you're innocent"?  We have heard that over and over and over....and many statements to that affect.  They say that "Lance asked DA Smothermon to give Porter a plea deal", that Kathie is an awful person for supporting the plea deal, all kinds of bad things have been said about that "plea deal".  They say if he was innocent of harming Kelsey, he should have went to trial and proven his innocence.

Do those same RD supporters that also support Ryan Wonderly's "false prosecution" and "wrongful conviction" ask that same question about Ryan?  Here is a link to KP that in the first post lists his criminal record.  http://www.kelseyspurpose.org/forums/showthread.php?tid=3575    He took a "plea deal" of 35 years!!  For those of you who don't know, he was a youth pastor in the Nazarene Church that was charged with molesting several girls in his church.  According to these "supporters" fav paper, the US Observer, they make it sound like he was "forced" to take the plea.

Ryan Wonderly entered an "Alfred Plea".  I quote this from About.com...."In this plea, the defendant does not admit the act and asserts innocence, but admits that sufficient evidence exists with which the prosecution could likely convince a judge or jury to find the defendant guilty."

My question would still be, if he was "innocent" why accept the plea at all?  If he is innocent why not chance going to court?  See, to me the difference in Porter taking the plea deal offered by Smothermon, is that he admitted he was guilty of "enabling abuse", so why wouldn't he take the plea?  To chance going to court on that charge, especially after admitting that he enabled the abuse to Kelsey, could have and most likely would have, gotten him a "life sentence".  Easy to see why he took the plea, he admitted his guilt and accepted a plea with a lesser sentence of punishment for the crime he comitted and admitted.  I'd say that was a "no brainer" myself. 

Ryan on the other hand still maintains his innocence.  So why cop to a plea?  To receive a lesser sentence?  Why didn't he "take his chance" with a jury?  By entering an Alfred plea he "admits that sufficient evidence exists with which the prosecution could likely convince a judge or jury to find the defendant guilty."
Interesting isn't it?  I saw by the article in the US Observer that afterwards he was also claiming ineffective counsel.  Two appeals have been filed in this case, but I haven't yet found out anything else, although the Observer says to stay tuned for new "revelations" in this case coming soon.

Anyway, got a little off track :)   I still wonder if these same people that question Porter acceptance of the plea offered, question why Ryan accepted his plea?  An attorney can "advise" a client to take a plea, but they certainly cannot force them to take it.

Real quick I want to bring up something else interesting that was just confirmed to me.  We knew that the Wonderly's were in attendence every day at Raye Dawn's trial and wondered why.  I just recently received confirmation that Mr. Wonderly works for none other than the US Observer.  Things that make ya go hhhmmm.......

Have a great day everyone! 

Dealing with Manipulative People

They say that people that actively seek attention only want "you to validate them".
I found an interesting excerpt from a book called "In Sheep's Clothing" by George K. Simon.
I think I will look for this book on Ebay.  I know this excerpt is a bit long, but ohhh my...it is WELL worth the read.  This will make some things happening make more sense.

http://www.rickross.com/reference/brainwashing/brainwashing11.html

Two Basic Types of Aggression


There are two basic types of aggression: overt-aggression and covert-aggression. When you're determined to have something and you're open, direct and obvious in your manner of fighting, your behavior is best labeled overtly aggressive. When you're out to "win," dominate or control, but are subtle, underhanded or deceptive enough to hide your true intentions, your behavior is most appropriately labeled covertly aggressive. Now, avoiding any overt display of aggression while simultaneously intimidating others into giving you what you want is a powerfully manipulative maneuver. That's why covert-aggression is most often the vehicle for interpersonal manipulation.



Acts of Covert-Aggression vs. Covert-Aggressive Personalities
 
Most of us have engaged in some sort of covertly aggressive behavior from time to time. Periodically trying to manipulate a person or a situation doesn't make someone a covert-aggressive personality. Personality can be defined by the way a person habitually perceives, relates to and interacts with others and the world at large.




The tactics of deceit, manipulation and control are a steady diet for covert-aggressive personality. It's the way they prefer to deal with others and to get the things they want in life.



The Process of Victimization

For a long time, I wondered why manipulation victims have a hard time seeing what really goes on in manipulative interactions. At first, I was tempted to fault them. But I've learned that they get hoodwinked for some very good reasons:



A manipulator's aggression is not obvious. Our gut may tell us that they're fighting for something, struggling to overcome us, gain power, or have their way, and we find ourselves unconsciously on the defensive. But because we can't point to clear, objective evidence they're aggressing against us, we can't readily validate our feelings.





The tactics manipulators use can make it seem like they're hurting, caring, defending, ..., almost anything but fighting. These tactics are hard to recognize as merely clever ploys. They always make just enough sense to make a person doubt their gut hunch that they're being taken advantage of or abused. Besides, the tactics not only make it hard for you to consciously and objectively tell that a manipulator is fighting, but they also simultaneously keep you or consciously on the defensive. These features make them highly effective psychological weapons to which anyone can be vulnerable. It's hard to think clearly when someone has you emotionally on the run.





All of us have weaknesses and insecurities that a clever manipulator might exploit. Sometimes, we're aware of these weaknesses and how someone might use them to take advantage of us. For example, I hear parents say things like: "Yeah, I know I have a big guilt button." – But at the time their manipulative child is busily pushing that button, they can easily forget what's really going on. Besides, sometimes we're unaware of our biggest vulnerabilities. Manipulators often know us better than we know ourselves. They know what buttons to push, when and how hard. Our lack of self-knowledge sets us up to be exploited.





What our gut tells us a manipulator is like, challenges everything we've been taught to believe about human nature. We've been inundated with a psychology that has us seeing everybody, at least to some degree, as afraid, insecure or "hung-up." So, while our gut tells us we're dealing with a ruthless conniver, our head tells us they must be really frightened or wounded "underneath." What's more, most of us generally hate to think of ourselves as callous and insensitive people. We hesitate to make harsh or seemingly negative judgments about others. We want to give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they don't really harbor the malevolent intentions we suspect. We're more apt to doubt and blame ourselves for daring to believe what our gut tells us about our manipulator's character.



Recognizing Aggressive Agendas

Accepting how fundamental it is for people to fight for the things they want and becoming more aware of the subtle, underhanded ways people can and do fight in their daily endeavors and relationships can be very consciousness expanding. Learning to recognize an aggressive move when somebody makes one and learning how to handle oneself in any of life's many battles, has turned out to be the most empowering experience for the manipulation victims with whom I've worked. It's how they eventually freed themselves from their manipulator's dominance and control and gained a much needed boost to their own sense of self esteem. Recognizing the inherent aggression in manipulative behavior and becoming more aware of the slick, surreptitious ways that manipulative people prefer to aggress against us is extremely important. Not recognizing and accurately labeling their subtly aggressive moves causes most people to misinterpret the behavior of manipulators and, therefore, fail to respond to them in an appropriate fashion. Recognizing when and how manipulators are fighting with covertly aggressive tactics is essential.



Defense Mechanisms and Offensive Tactics

Almost everyone is familiar with the term defense mechanism. Defense mechanisms are the "automatic" (i.e. unconscious) mental behaviors all of us employ to protect or defend ourselves from the "threat" of some emotional pain. More specifically, ego defense mechanisms are mental behaviors we use to "defend" our self-images from "invitations" to feel ashamed or guilty about something. There are many different kinds of ego defenses and the more traditional (psychodynamic) theories of personality have always tended to distinguish the various personality types, at least in part, by the types of ego defenses they prefer to use. One of the problems with psychodynamic approaches to understanding human behavior is that they tend to depict people as most always afraid of something and defending or protecting themselves in some way; even when they're in the act of aggressing. Covert-aggressive personalities (indeed all aggressive personalities) use a variety of mental behaviors and interpersonal maneuvers to help ensure they get what they want. Some of these behaviors have been traditionally thought of as defense mechanisms.



While, from a certain perspective we might say someone engaging in these behaviors is defending their ego from any sense of shame or guilt, it's important to realize that at the time the aggressor is exhibiting these behaviors, he is not primarily defending (i.e. attempting to prevent some internally painful event from occurring), but rather fighting to maintain position, gain power and to remove any obstacles (both internal and external) in the way of getting what he wants. Seeing the aggressor as on the defensive in any sense is a set-up for victimization. Recognizing that they're primarily on the offensive, mentally prepares a person for the decisive action they need to take in order to avoid being run over. Therefore, I think it's best to conceptualize many of the mental behaviors (no matter how "automatic" or "unconscious" they may appear) we often think of as defense mechanisms, as offensive power tactics, because aggressive personalities employ them primarily to manipulate, control and achieve dominance over others. Rather than trying to prevent something emotionally painful or dreadful from happening, anyone using these tactics is primarily trying to ensure that something they want to happen does indeed happen. Using the vignettes presented in the previous chapters for illustration, let's take a look at the principal tactics covert-aggressive personalities use to ensure they get their way and maintain a position of power over their victims:



Denial – This is when the aggressor refuses to admit that they've done something harmful or hurtful when they clearly have. It's a way they lie (to themselves as well as to others) about their aggressive intentions. This "Who... Me?" tactic is a way of "playing innocent," and invites the victim to feel unjustified in confronting the aggressor about the inappropriateness of a behavior. It's also the way the aggressor gives him/herself permission to keep right on doing what they want to do. This denial is not the same kind of denial that a person who has just lost a loved one and can't quite bear to accept the pain and reality of the loss engages in. That type of denial really is mostly a "defense" against unbearable hurt and anxiety. Rather, this type of denial is not primarily a "defense" but a maneuver the aggressor uses to get others to back off, back down or maybe even feel guilty themselves for insinuating he's doing something wrong.



In the story of James the minister, James' denial of his ruthless ambition is massive. He denied he was hurting and neglecting his family. He especially denied he was aggressively pursuing any personal agenda. On the contrary, he cast himself as the humble servant to a honorable cause. He managed to convince several people (and maybe even himself) of the nobility and purity of his intentions. But underneath it all, James knew he was being dishonest: This fact is borne out in his reaction to the threat of not getting a seat on the Elders' Council if his marital problems worsened. When James learned he might not get what he was so aggressively pursuing after all, he had an interesting "conversion" experience. All of a sudden, he decided he could put aside the Lord's bidding for a weekend and he might really need to devote more time to his marriage and family. James' eyes weren't opened by the pastor's words. He always kept his awareness high about what might hinder or advance his cause. He knew if he didn't tend to his marriage he might lose what he really wanted. So, he chose (at least temporarily) to alter course.



In the story of Joe and Mary, Mary confronted Joe several times about what she felt was insensitivity and ruthlessness on his part in his treatment of Lisa. Joe denied his aggressiveness. He also successfully convinced Mary that what she felt in her gut was his aggressiveness was really conscientiousness, loyalty, and passionate fatherly concern. Joe wanted a daughter who got all A's. Mary stood in the way. Joe's denial was the tactic he used to remove Mary as an obstacle to what he wanted.



Selective Inattention – This tactic is similar to and sometimes mistaken for denial. It's when the aggressor "plays dumb," or acts oblivious. When engaging in this tactic, the aggressor actively ignores the warnings, pleas or wishes of others, and in general, refuses to pay attention to everything and anything that might distract them from pursuing their own agenda. Often, the aggressor knows full well what you want from him when he starts to exhibit this "I don't want to hear it!" behavior. By using this tactic, the aggressor actively resists submitting himself to the tasks of paying attention to or refraining from the behavior you want him to change. In the story of Jenny and Amanda, Jenny tried to tell Amanda she was losing privileges because she was behaving irresponsibly. But Amanda wouldn't listen. Her teachers tried to tell her what she needed to do to improve her grade: but she didn't listen to them either. Actively listening to and heeding the suggestions of someone else are, among other things, acts of submission. And, as you may remember from the story, Amanda is not a girl who submits easily. Determined to let nothing stand in her way and convinced she could eventually "win" most of her power struggles with authority figures through manipulation, Amanda closed her ears. She didn't see any need to listen. From her point of view, she would only have lost some power and control if she submitted herself to the guidance and direction offered by those whom she views as less powerful, clever and capable as herself.



Rationalization – A rationalization is the excuse an aggressor tries to offer for engaging in an inappropriate or harmful behavior. It can be an effective tactic, especially when the explanation or justification the aggressor offers makes just enough sense that any reasonably conscientious person is likely to fall for it. It's a powerful tactic because it not only serves to remove any internal resistance the aggressor might have about doing what he wants to do (quieting any qualms of conscience he might have) but also to keep others off his back. If the aggressor can convince you he's justified in whatever he's doing, then he's freer to pursue his goals without interference.



In the story of little Lisa, Mary felt uneasy about the relentlessness with which Joe pursued his quest to make his daughter an obedient, all-A student once again. And, she was aware of Lisa's expressed desire to pursue counseling as a means of addressing and perhaps solving some of her problems. Although Mary felt uneasy about Joe's forcefulness and sensed the impact on her daughter, she allowed herself to become persuaded by his rationalizations that any concerned parent ought to know his daughter better than some relatively dispassionate outsider and that he was only doing his duty by doing as much as he possibly could to "help" his "little girl." When a manipulator really wants to make headway with their rationalizations they'll be sure their excuses are combined with other effective tactics. For example, when Joe was "selling" Mary on the justification for shoving his agenda down everyone's throat he was also sending out subtle invitations for her to feel ashamed (shaming her for not being as "concerned" a parent as he was) as well as making her feel guilty (guilt-tripping her) for not being as conscientious as he was pretending to be.



Diversion – A moving target is hard to hit. When we try to pin a manipulator down or try to keep a discussion focused on a single issue or behavior we don't like, he's expert at knowing how to change the subject, dodge the issue or in some way throw us a curve. Manipulators use distraction and diversion techniques to keep the focus off their behavior, move us off-track, and keep themselves free to promote their self-serving hidden agendas.



Rather than respond directly to the issue being addressed, Amanda diverted attention to her teacher's and classmates' treatment of her. Jenny allowed Amanda to steer her off track. She never got a straight answer to the question.



Another example of a diversion tactic can be found in the story of Don and Al. Al changed the subject when Don asked him if he had any plans to replace him. He focused on whether he was unhappy or not with Don's sales performance – as if that's what Don had asked him about in the first place. He never gave Don a straight answer to a straight question (manipulators are notorious for this). He told him what he thought would make Don feel less anxious and would steer him away from pursuing the matter any further. Al left feeling like he'd gotten an answer but all he really got was the "runaround."



Early in the current school year, I found it necessary to address my son's irresponsibility about doing his homework by making a rule that he bring his books home every night. One time I asked: "Did you bring your books home today?" His response was: "Guess what, Dad. Instead of tomorrow, we're not going to have our test – until Friday." My question was simple and direct. His answer was deliberately evasive and diversionary. He knew that if he answered the question directly and honestly, he would have received a consequence for failing to bring his books home. By using diversion (and also offering a rationalization) he was already fighting with me to avoid that consequence. Whenever someone is not responding directly to an issue, you can safely assume that for some reason, they're trying to give you the slip.



Lying – It's often hard to tell when a person is lying at the time he's doing it. Fortunately, there are times when the truth will out because circumstances don't bear out somebody's story. But there are also times when you don't know you've been deceived until it's too late. One way to minimize the chances that someone will put one over on you is to remember that because aggressive personalities of all types will generally stop at nothing to get what they want, you can expect them to lie and cheat. Another thing to remember is that manipulators – covert-aggressive personalities that they are – are prone to lie in subtle, covert ways. Courts are well aware of the many ways that people lie, as they require that court oaths charge that testifiers tell "the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth." Manipulators often lie by withholding a significant amount of the truth from you or by distorting the truth. They are dept at being vague when you ask them direct questions. This is an especially slick way of lying' omission. Keep this in mind when dealing with a suspected wolf in sheep's clothing. Always seek and obtain specific, confirmable information.



Covert Intimidation – Aggressors frequently threaten their victims to keep them anxious, apprehensive and in a one-down position. Covert-aggressives intimidate their victims by making veiled (subtle, indirect or implied) threats. Guilt-tripping and shaming are two of the covert-aggressive's favourite weapons. Both are special intimidation tactics.



Guilt-tripping – One thing that aggressive personalities know well is that other types of persons have very different consciences than they do. Manipulators are often skilled at using what they know to be the greater conscientiousness of their victims as a means of keeping them in a self-doubting, anxious, and submissive position. The more conscientious the potential victim, the more effective guilt is as a weapon. Aggressive personalities of all types use guilt-tripping so frequently and effectively as a manipulative tactic, that I believe it illustrates how fundamentally different in character they are compared to other (especially neurotic) personalities. All a manipulator has to do is suggest to the conscientious person that they don't care enough, are too selfish, etc., and that person immediately starts to feel bad. On the contrary, a conscientious person might try until they're blue in the face to get a manipulator (or any other aggressive personality) to feel badly about a hurtful behavior, acknowledge responsibility, or admit wrongdoing, to absolutely no avail.



Shaming – This is the technique of using subtle sarcasm and put-downs as a means of increasing fear and self-doubt in others. Covert-aggressives use this tactic to make others feel inadequate or unworthy, and therefore, defer to them. It's an effective way to foster a continued sense of personal inadequacy in the weaker party, thereby allowing an aggressor to maintain a position of dominance.




When Joe loudly proclaimed any "good" parent would do just as he was doing to help Lisa, he subtly implied Mary would be a "bad" parent if she didn't attempt to do the same. He "invited" her to feel ashamed of herself. The tactic was effective. Mary eventually felt ashamed for taking a position that made it appear she didn't care enough about her own daughter. Even more doubtful of her worth as a person and a parent, Mary deferred to Joe, thus enabling him to rein a position of dominance over her. Covert-aggressives are expert at using shaming tactics in the most subtle ways. Sometimes it can just be in the glances they give or the tone of voice they use. Using rhetorical comments, subtle sarcasm and other techniques, they can invite you to feel ashamed of yourself for even daring to challenge them. Joe tried to shame Mary when I considered accepting the educational assessment performed by Lisa's school. He said something like: "I'm not sure what kind of doctor you are or just what kind of credentials you have, but I'm sure you'd agree that a youngster's grades wouldn't slip as much as Lisa's for no reason. You couldn't be entirely certain she didn't have a learning disability unless you did some testing, could you?' With those words, he "invited" Mary to feel ashamed of herself for not at least considering doing just as he asked. If Mary didn't have a suspicion about what he was up to, she might have accepted this invitation without a second thought.



Playing the Victim Role – This tactic involves portraying oneself as an innocent victim of circumstances or someone else's behavior in order to gain sympathy, evoke compassion and thereby get something from another. One thing that covert-aggressive personalities count on is the fact that less calloused and less hostile personalities usually can't stand to see anyone suffering. Therefore, the tactic is simple. Convince your victim you're suffering in some way, and they'll try to relieve your distress.



In the story of Amanda and Jenny, Amanda was good at playing the victim role too. She had her mother believing that she (Amanda) was the victim of extremely unfair treatment and the target of unwarranted hostility. I remember Jenny telling me: "Sometimes I think Amanda's wrong when she says her teacher hates her and I hate her. But what if that's what she really believes? Can I afford to be so firm with her if she believes in her heart that I hate her?" I remember telling Jenny: "Whether Amanda has come to believe her own distortions is almost irrelevant. She manipulates you because you believe that she believes it and allow that supposed belief to serve as an excuse for her undisciplined aggression."



Vilifying the Victim – This tactic is frequently used in conjunction with the tactic of playing the victim role. The aggressor uses this tactic to make it appear he is only responding (i.e. defending himself against) aggression on the part of the victim. It enables the aggressor to better put the victim on the defensive.



Returning again to the story of Jenny and Amanda, when Amanda accuses her mother of "hating" her and "always saying mean things" to her, she not only invites Jenny to feel the "bully," but simultaneously succeeds in "bullying" Jenny into backing off. More than any other, the tactic of vilifying the victim is a powerful means of putting someone unconsciously on the defensive while simultaneously masking the aggressive intent and behavior of the person using the tactic.



Playing the Servant Role – Covert-aggressives use this tactic to cloak their self-serving agendas in the guise of service to a more noble cause. It's a common tactic but difficult to recognize. By pretending to be working hard on someone else's behalf, covert-aggressives conceal their own ambition, desire for power, and quest for a position of dominance over others. In the story of James (the minister) and Sean, James appeared to many to be the tireless servant. He attended more activities than he needed to attend and did so eagerly. But if devoted service to those who needed him was his aim, how does one explain the degree to which James habitually neglected his family? As an aggressive personality, James submits himself to no one. The only master he serves is his own ambition. Not only was playing the servant role an effective tactic for James, but also it's the cornerstone upon which corrupt ministerial empires of all types are built. A good example comes to mind in the recent true story of a well-known tele-evangelist who locked himself up in a room in a purported display of "obedience" and "service" to God. He even portrayed himself' a willing sacrificial lamb who was prepared to be "taken by God" if he didn't do the Almighty's bidding and raise eight million dollars. He claimed he was a humble servant, merely heeding the Lord's will. He was really fighting to save his substantial material empire.



Another recent scandal involving a tele-evangelist resulted in his church's governance body censuring him for one year. But he told his congregation he couldn't stop his ministry because he had to be faithful to the Lord's will (God supposedly talked to him and told him not to quit). This minister was clearly being defiant of his church's established authority. Yet, he presented himself as a person being humbly submissive to the "highest" authority. One hallmark characteristic of covert-aggressive personalities is loudly professing subservience while fighting for dominance.



Seduction – Covert-aggressive personalities are adept at charming, praising, flattering or overtly supporting others in order to get them to lower their defenses and surrender their trust and loyalty. Covert-aggressives are also particularly aware that people who are to some extent emotionally needy and dependent (and that includes most people who aren't character-disordered) want approval, reassurance, and a sense of being valued and needed more than anything. Appearing to be attentive to these needs can be a manipulator's ticket to incredible power over others. Shady "gurus" like Jim Jones and David Koresh seemed to have refined this tactic to an art. In the story of Al and Don, Al is the consummate seducer. He melts any resistance you might have to giving him your loyalty and confidence. He does this by giving you what he knows you need most. He knows you want to feel valued and important. So, he often tells you that you are. You don't find out how unimportant you really are to him until you turn out to be in his way.



Projecting the blame (blaming others) – Aggressive personalities are always looking for a way to shift the blame for their aggressive behavior. Covert-aggressives are not only skilled at finding scapegoats, they're expert at doing so in subtle, hard to detect ways.



Minimization – This tactic is a unique kind of denial coupled with rationalization. When using this maneuver, the aggressor is attempting to assert that his abusive behavior isn't really as harmful or irresponsible as someone else may be claiming. It's the aggressor's attempt to make a molehill out of a mountain.



I've presented the principal tactics that covert-aggressives use to manipulate and control others. They are not always easy to recognize. Although all aggressive personalities tend to use these tactics, covert-aggressives generally use them slickly, subtly and adeptly. Anyone dealing with a covertly aggressive person will need to heighten gut-level sensitivity to the use of these tactics if they're to avoid being taken in by them.

Some VERY powerful words in this excerpt!!  Validates a whole lot of what I've thought about some things for some time now.  Makes things make sense now, doesn't it??  Have a great night...day I guess it's almost 3am, so I am signing off now.....night all!

I'm proud to say...I DO NOT READ BETWEEN THE LINES!!

More snow. uccck!  It's not sticking yet, thank goodness.  But the are calling for up to 8 inches here.  We still have piles of snow from the last storm.  Sure am lookin' forward to summer!!  I hate the cold.

I want to clarify something for someone.  No one tells me what to think, what to say or what to believe.   Kathie Briggs does not tell me I have to believe what she does.  In fact, I have believed that Raye Dawn is the one who killed Kelsey from the beginning of when I got into researching this case.  At that time Kathie was leaning towards Porter being the guilty one.  Kathie didn't "threaten" me or coerce me or tell me I HAD to believe what she did or I couldn't be a member of KP or be her friend.  I've never been told to "go tip a poll", or anything else by her, unlike what someone else has done to members of the fkm fantasy world.  I think for myself.  I do my own research.  I use my own brain.  No one tells me what to do, how to do it, or when to do it.  I know that concept is hard for some, but there are those of us that exist that do just that.  I don't care if my "opinion" is the popular opinion or not. 

My words are not Kathie's words.  And hers are not mine.

For some people who do not want anyone judging Gayla or Raye Dawn, they sure do a lot of "judging" themselves.  Statements such as "They definitely hate Raye. It's all about hating Raye and hating Gayla. And exploiting their "love" of Kelsey to do so. They don't love that child. They love what she can do for them. How it makes them feel like especially perfect people (which they are far from). Kathie has instilled this in all of them. They believe all of their stories and broadcast them as truths"  Wow, pretty strong accusations and judgements going on in that small paragraph.   Have you asked Kathie if she "hates" Raye?  Why do you  judge Kathie or Lance?  You say as fact that "they don't love that child".  You know this for a fact how?  "How it makes them feel like especially perfect people (which they are far from)."  How do you know how anything makes them feel?  Have you asked them? talked to them?  Where have you seen anyone say any of the Briggs are "perfect people"?  You certainly have not seen them say they are perfect.  Sure a lot of "judging" going on in that small paragraph. 

One of the best and truest statements (accusations?) I've seen from any raye supporter.  "They don't read between any lines. "  You are ABSOLUTELY right.  I do not read between the lines.  I read the facts.  Not someone else's interpretations or misrepresentations that are written "between the lines".  I don't read my own opinions in "between the lines" either.  I read things as they are...as they are written.  I don't believe I have ever heard a Judge tell a jury when they are hearing and debating evidence in a case that they must "read between the lines" to interpret evidence.  That must be what is wrong with those that believe she is innocent.  They are "reading between the lines".  I prefer to read the truth and facts.  So thank you for noticing that we don't add anything to the truth but what is there.

Another very true statement....."Anything dishonest, God will deal with."  Amen!  You can say that again.  Something to remember.  I tell the truth, so I don't have to worry about it.  No, i'm not "perfect", never claimed to be. And yes, I've said some mean things, things I probably shouldn't have in my anger and frustration.  But I have NEVER lied or intentionally misrepresented the truth.  I have nothing to gain by lying about any of it.  I'm not the one sitting in prison, I'm not writing a book, I'm not seeking to be important to anyone involved in this case.   I just want justice for an innocent, helpless child that was viciously abused the last months of her life and eventually murdered.  My opinion based on the facts, evidence and truth in this case, without "reading between the lines", is that raye dawn killed Kelsey, and yes I want her charged with that crime.  I want mothers to realize that they do have not only a moral but a legal responsibility to the children they bring into this world.  I want them to know you do not put a man before your children.  Your children are your priority and you care for them and protect them from the evils in this world.  You don't stand by and let another person abuse your children and you don't abuse them yourself or take their life....for any reason.  Being overwhelmed is no excuse.  Someone distracting you, is no excuse. Not paying attention to what is happening to your child is no excuse.  Not wanting to be "bothered" is no excuse.  A man is no excuse.  And just being a lousy, sorry excuse for a "mother" is no excuse either.

Those that say that they "KNOW" that Porter killed Kelsey and sexually assaulted her....to those I say, I am glad that you know more about the facts, evidence and truth in the case than Smothermon and Patty H. who prosecuted this case and have seen ALL the evidence, not just that which is more favorable to your chosen idol.  I'll certainly be glad when the "Who Killed Kelsey?" book comes out and we can discuss the evidence and facts in the book which haven't been released to the public yet.  There will be PLENTY to talk about. 

Some will go quiet...some will rant and rave...another will lie, lie, lie and hurry to do damage control.  Should be quite interesting.  Facts are fact folks, nothing can change it.

Blaine....

I want to say something about Blaine.  I am very thankful that DHS stepped in and protected him by placing him outside the home where Raye Dawn was living, which was with Gayla.  Putting him with Gayla while Raye Dawn lived there would have been putting him in danger in my opinion.

I was even more thankful after Raye Dawn's pre-sentencing report was made, that Blaine was protected.  This is an excerpt from her pre-sentence report. 

"Smith denies culpability in this offense.  Smith denies she allowed Kelsey to be abused.  Instead, Smith attempts to diminish her responsibility for the abuse of her daughter and projects blame to others who were the only individuals who took actions to protect Kelsey.  Because of Smith's denial of responsibility, it is unlikely that Smith will display a willingness to change her behavior.  Through her actions and omissions, Smith has shown she poses a serious threat to any children or minors in which she has been entrusted for their care"

She has "shown she poses a serious threat to any children or minors".   Enough said.


The pre-sentence report can be found here in PDF format.

 http://downloads.newsok.com/documents/au23kelseydoc.pdf
Another:  "Given the length of time that Kelsey was abused and allowed to be abused, it appears the Instant Offense was not situational but rather a persistent pattern of behavior that ultimately resulted in her death."
 
"was abused and allowed to be abused"....yet another blogger would have you believe that Kelsey had not been abused at all, until the day she was murdered.  Minimizing Kelsey's pain, suffering and abuse will not make Raye Dawn less guilty, nor free her from her home for the next 20+ years.
 
Another thing on my mind...."justice for Kelsey" would NOT be Porter sitting in prison for the murder and sexual assault of Kelsey.  It has not been proven that he killed Kelsey, nor sexually assaulted her.  In FACT, it has NOT been proven that Kelsey was sexually assaulted at all.  IF she had been, it is very well possible that was also done by her own sorry mother according to facts and evidence in this case.  And yes, we want Raye in prison for her role in Kelsey's murder.  And yes we want her to be charged with the murder of Kelsey.  As tough as it may be for those that insist on manipulating facts, reading other's opinions stated as fact....  We believe that Raye Dawn killed Kelsey and we want her charged with it.  I fully believe in my opinion that there is enough evidence to convict Raye Dawn Smith in the murder of her own child, Kelsey Briggs!!
 
Once again another Raye supporter talks of Smothermon stating at Raye's trial that he believed Porter to be the guilty one.  They do not, however talk about his MOST RECENT statement where he says that he can't tell you which one killed Kelsey, that there is evidence that points to BOTH of them as being the murderer.  Her supporters ALWAYS leave out his most recent statement.  I guess they think if they don't talk about it, post it or say it, that Smothermon didn't say it.  But he did.  He stated his "opinion" in court that day, not FACT.  Guess they don't realize or understand that as more evidence came and the more it was looked over that Smothermon's "opinion" could change. 
 
Recently it was stated by a RD supporter  "Read Smothermon's own words. He prosecuted Raye Smith because of the pressure of the Briggs family and his fear of losing the election. "  I have yet to find where Smothermon said in his "own words" that he prosecuted Raye Dawn because of "fear of losing the election".  I gave up looking for it, it doesn't exist.
I would email Gayla and Sherri and Raye Dawn and ask why there is no justice for Kelsey, but then we know what the answer would be.  Well Kathie did this and Lance didn't do that.....and so the story goes...as always.....Raye Dawn never did a thing wrong...ask her.....everyone knows that everyone sitting in prison is innocent...just ask them.
 
I do have in my possession a copy of an email that Gayla wrote....if it were posted you would see why it is a good thing that Blaine wasn't put in her care...she apparently doesn't want to be saddled down taking care of a baby, in my opinion after seeing the email.  I did recently hear that Blaine was adopted by the family he's with, I know they do list him as their child on FB too.  I hope that's true, even if it is RD's family members.  That poor baby has so much to deal with in the future.  Thank God he will be a grown man when his biological mother gets out of prison.  Anyway, not stating the adoption as fact, but will check into that a little further, as I was just recently told this again.  May God Bless you and keep you safe little Blaine.